Let’s talk about fathers, daughters, and gender equity

Tits and tats about raising the bar

In this week’s episode, Kassia is chatting with Kate Baer about: becoming a New York Times Bestselling poet with her first book (no big deal); the slow burn of being lost, overwhelmed, and undervalued as a woman and mother; and the unglamorous realities of writing (hint: lots of misogyny, failures, emotional labor, and some very expensive childcare).

Among other things, Kassia and Kate wrestle with the fatherhood as a catalyst for gender equity and we were left wanting more. So our team dove deep into the world wide web to round up an admittedly abbreviated list of what others are saying about fathers, daughters, and gender equity.

It’s time to start talking

  • “It’s great that [my husband] cares about what happens to our daughter, but I hope he cares about what happens to everybody’s daughter,” Kate says in today’s episode. Mic drop. In this moment Kassia realizes the bar is way too low. Perhaps celebrating fathers for caring about gender equity only after they have daughters is in fact expecting too little of the men in our lives.
  • A dad who owns becoming a feminist the day his daughter was born 
  • A woman who thinks that it shouldn’t take having a daughter to make gender equality matter
  • A dad who recognizes the critique and pushes back on it
  • The cliche of a fatherhood being a catalyst for caring isn’t lost on many men. Here’s a spoof about just how low the bar really is.
  • We can’t talk about motherhood, parenthood, and poetry without brining your attention to this stunning spoken word poetry by Sarah Kay on TED. This is her letter to a daughter.
  • Oh, and because we know when you hear this interview, you’re going to want Kate Baer’s collections: you can find I Hope This Finds You Well here and What Kind of Woman here.
Listen to the episode with Kate Baer